Anger management

Compiled by Amy Breviano

Those currant-faced screamers on the touchline do damage to you, your kids, and the sport. Anger is an enormous social problem not easily curbed at high-pressure club soccer matches.

This issue we take a look at anger management and how it can benefit players and coaches alike.

What is anger?

Anger is an emotional state that can range from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. Feelings of anger actually produce physical changes in the body such as increased heart rate, blood pressure, and adrenaline.

When does anger become a problem? Laws, social norms, and just plain common sense tell us not to lash out physically or verbally every time something irritates us. Otherwise, we could hurt ourselves and others.

What are some ways to deal with anger? Some people choose to ignore or bottle up anger, but this approach may actually cause more harm because the root problem is never addressed. Instead, try to manage anger so it can become a more positive emotion.

	Anger is an enormous social problem not easily curbed at high-pressure club matches.

Here are some ideas: Relax. Breathe deeply from your diaphragm (your belly, not your chest) and slowly repeat a calming word or phrase like "take it easy." Think of relaxing experiences, such as sitting on a beach or walking through a forest.

Think positively. Remind yourself that the world is not out to get you, but rather you’re just experiencing some of the rough spots of daily life.

Problem-solve. Identify the specific problem that is causing the anger and approach it head-on––even if the problem does not have a quick solution.

Communicate with others. Angry people tend to jump to conclusions. Slow down and think carefully about what you want to say. Listen carefully to what the other person is saying. At times, criticism may actually be useful to you.

Manage stress. Ideas include:
* Listening to music
* Writing in a journal
* Exercising
* Meditating
* Talking about your feelings with someone you trust.

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